As parents, we teach our children enumerable lessons. Some hold the purpose of keeping our children alive; look both ways before you cross the street. Some hold the purpose of teaching social skills; don’t talk with your mouth full. But others exist in a realm of their own. They are the lessons that shape your child’s perception of themselves. These are the lessons that you hope they will hold dear their entire lives.
My husband is my true partner in all sense of the word, but I must say I couldn’t image trying to navigate the turbulent waters of parenthood without him. The lessons that he works so diligently to pass on to our daughters are the ones that will give them the strength and skill to venture forth into the world and not only hold their own, but succeed at anything they set their mind to.
Here are some of the most important lessons he is instilling in our daughters.
1. Always do your best (AKA, doing the right thing is sometimes the hardest)
In our house there is no point in doing a job if you are not going to do your best. ”Half assed” is just not good enough. As the girls get older, we are finding this is one we have to remind them of on a constant basis. They live in a society where taking the easy route is often celebrated. We are constantly up against the argument, “So and so doesn’t have to….” My husband’s response is always the same, “I don’t care about so and so. It this house we always give 110%.”
2. Always leave a place better then you found it
This was a lesson that was passed on from his own father, and it simply boils down to going the extra mile. Through the willingness to take that extra little step, you are making the world a better place.
3. A family is a team
My husband often says, “It is us against the world and we have to work together.” In our house, everyone plays an important role in helping our family succeed. Each person is well aware of their job, but we all work to help and support each other so our household runs smoothly. As the girls get older, they take on more of the household chores. This doesn’t always make them happy, but it is important to teach them the importance of working together. A family does not have success without all members working together.
4. Work smarter not harder
In life it isn’t always how hard you work, but how smart you can work. My husband teaches our daughters to out think their struggles and find a way to work smarter. Sometimes working harder is like trying to get through a brick wall by bashing your head against it. My husband helps our daughters figure out a way to climb over the wall. Through his lessons, he is creating in our girls, young ladies who can think on their feet and are not afraid to think outside the box. Bottom line: Don’t be a sheep – don’t follow along with everyone else, but be willing to out think the situation and go your own way.
5. It doesn’t matter how hard you can hit, but how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward
Yes I know this last one is directly from the last Rocky movie, but it holds true in our house. It isn’t so much the first part that is important but the second. He uses this quote when the girls are facing a struggle in their lives. This could be a struggle with school or possibly a friend. I believe the most important, life enduring lesson he is teaching our daughters is to never give up; always push forward. Take the hits that life is going to throw your way, but get up and push on. He is instilling in the girls the knowledge that sometimes life is just going to hit you hard and regardless of what it is, you have to get up and you have to keep going forward.